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Make your ‘tea break’ into a ‘me break’…

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I work from home, which is both a blessing and a curse.  I love my own company but I miss the buzz of working with other people.  In fact, it can be pretty lonely sometimes.  When you work from home, it can be difficult not to be distracted by the door bell, telephone, washing machine and general household maintenance jobs that just catch your attention every time you walk past.  I’ve been working from home for the last 14 years and in that time, I’ve used a tea break as an opportunity to put the washing on, quickly cook up a meal, browse social media (always extending into a much longer browse than I intended) and all manner of things that are neither ‘work’ nor ‘break’.  Sometimes, by the time I went to drink my tea, I’d been so distracted doing other things, that it was stewed and not really worth drinking.  I’d then take it back up to my office to drink it at my desk.  Not really a break at all.  How did I expect to come back to my work, refreshed and with renewed enthusiasm, focus or motivation?

Last summer, I decided that if I was going to have a tea break, I’d have a proper break.  I’d focus on making myself a really good cup of tea or coffee, in my favourite mug or cup and I’d sit and drink it without doing anything else.  In fact, I bought myself a lovely cup and saucer (the one in the picture) that I knew I’d love drinking from, to encourage myself to make the change.  I wanted my tea break to become more like a ritual.  I turned my frenetic farce of a tea break into a calm, loving and restful moment.  I began to stop work, carefully make myself a cup of tea or coffee in my favourite cup and then sit somewhere quiet, warm and comfortable (or in the conservatory with the rain hammering down on the roof) and just drink my tea, enjoy the taste, enjoy my cup, enjoy where I was sitting, my surroundings, the sights and sounds, and just ‘be’.   It really has turned into a loving ritual.  ‘Loving’ because I am loving myself enough to make myself a really good cup of tea rather than settling for a stewed, nearly cold cup of something bitter and unsatisfying.  I thought I’d share this with you, as I recently connected with the earth angel and spreader of love and truth, Scott Stabile, who used this very situation as an example of the small ways in which you can lavish ‘love’ on yourself by taking the time to be present and really ‘show up’ for yourself and how that can be as simple as taking the time and love to prepare yourself great drinks, good food, or choosing to wear underwear that feels good and doesn’t ride into your butt crack when you’re sitting at your computer!  So, I am not the only crazy ‘tea break ritual’ soul out there, Scott does it too!  I’d like to encourage you to do the same.  Make your ‘tea break’ into a ‘me break’.

With so much love!  Nixy

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May 3, 2018

Coming soon…

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Coming soon to the Born Peaceful Blog!  We will be sharing free videos featuring guided meditations, breathing practices, guided visualizations, guided relaxations and guided gratitude practices as well as interviews and introductions to teachers and coaches that we think will resonate with you, really gifted and special people who can teach you the tools to reach your full potential, overcome past patterns and traumas and break through any self-limiting beliefs.  We’ll be sharing lots of methods and techniques to help you find peace and calm at any time and to help you return to your true joyful and peaceful nature.

February 19, 2017

Joy in small things

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One day, we’ll realise that the ‘small’ things, were actually the ‘big’ things….

Life is short.  Whether we believe we have one life or many lives, it just doesn’t make sense to sleepwalk through it, as we only get one chance at this particular life.   The life that we’re in, right now, is speeding by and we barely notice what’s going on around us.  We rarely take time to slow down or stop to really experience events, relationships, sights, sounds, tastes…   Life has become so busy.  Our minds and bodies can be overwhelmed with stimuli from all directions, every minute of every day.

Our reliance on our mobile devices means that it is possible to allow interruptions and intrusions almost 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

Our youngsters have become addicted to constant contact with each other.  They are becoming dissatisfied with their lives, their bodies, their clothing, their cars, their jobs, their friends, their social lives, because they are comparing their own ‘real’  lives with the carefully chosen and edited versions of the lives their peers choose to portray on social media.  Carefully chosen, perfectly pouting ‘selfies’ that in reality, took 26 attempts to get that ‘just perfect’ look.  No wonder there is a frightening rise in mental health problems in teenagers.

Born Peaceful is a movement towards slowing down the pace of life to make sure we really experience and notice every single moment that we’re given.  When we try to find ‘Joy in small things’ we explore being able to find joy and peace in ordinary, everyday experiences and things.  I’ll be sharing practices, relaxations and meditations that you can use to take some ‘time out’ to re-connect and nurture your spirit.

We are privileged to be here so let’s make every moment count.  Let’s see if we can find ‘Joy in small things’ now, because one day, we will realise that these ‘small’ things, were actually the ‘big’ things…

I’ll be finding ‘Joy in small things’ on my own, with my friends and family.  So join me as I experiment with finding joy, peace, happiness, laughter and tranquillity, in everyday events and things.  We’ll share our experiences with you and  suggest some ways that you might be able find ‘Joy in small things’ too.

With so much love…

February 5, 2017

Cosy Office Bubble

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We are all connected and part of something so much bigger than our own little worlds, but sometimes, feeling safe in your own space is very comforting…

I’ve been up for a while this morning and I’m still feeling tired from yesterday (a long day with all sorts of complications requiring extra thought and extra effort to even begin to resolve). I’ve just finished my porridge and I’m sitting at my desk reading and replying to emails.

It’s not 8 O’clock yet, it’s dark outside, it’s just that kind of day. Today is March 1st and outside it’s quite Wintery.  The lights are on in the office and I’ve got Radio 4 quietly and gently offering up news, mainly bad, but in my small world, right here, right now, seems like a world away.  There’s something really comforting about these familiar voices, whatever dire news they’re presenting. I’m not really listening, just dipping in and out  ‘…green shoots of recovery’,  ‘…over 7 billion pounds for fines in that area’,  ‘the wealthier you were in Victorian times, the longer you lived’. So this is a small thing but the cosiness of being warm in the office, while it’s cold, wet and dark outside is a small joy.  My stomach is full from my porridge, a privilege that many across the world will not be experiencing.

Today’s small thing just has to be the feeling that just came over me as I’m sitting here at my desk, cossetted in my office, safe, warm and content, while the world goes on, somewhere ‘out there’.  A feeling of being detached and in my own bubble but also connected and part of something so much bigger…

With so much love

May 2, 2016

Post Office Brief Encounter

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Even the most mundane trips are an opportunity to connect with others…

Although I’m trying to find joy in small things all day, every day, I’m going to share with you as often as I can. Sometimes this will be a description, sometimes a video…. let’s just see how this goes.

Today’s ‘small thing’ was my walk from the car to the post office ( I know, I could have made it a much bigger thing by walking all the way there, but I just had too much to do today so I had to find joy in the small walk from the car to the Post Office.

Today, is a beautiful, spring-like day,  a special day as it is the 29th February!  So this particular ‘moment’ was quite rare (or not if you’re not into being constrained by the abstract concept of time)…. There is a definite chill in the air.

I park the car on a busy road where I always park but as far away from the Post Office as I can.  This road is lined with other cars and traffic busily rushing in both directions.  The grass seems greener than usual, probably just because the sun was shining. I notice the confused trees, already sprouting blossom, far too early but what an amazing sign that Spring is coming.  Life feels so cheerful and full of hope when blossom first appears.  I notice that the birds are really loving the sun, they’re chattering like mad.   I make it my mission to make eye contact with and smile with people, whether I ‘know’ them or not – to make a connection with them.  My face is bathed in sunlight and touched by the chilled breeze…  You can’t help feeling joy when you’ve got the sun on your face and the breeze in your hair.

It feels good to be outside and the cool air feels refreshing after the still, warm air in the house. When I get to the door of the Post Office, I am awkward and clumsy as I am carrying four bags full of parcels to post and they were making me at least three times as wide as I usually am, I exchange smiles and laughs with a lovely man (I’ve seen him around the town, but I don’t know his name) and he holds the door open for me and wishes me luck, I thank him and we laugh again.  A fleeting connection, one person helping another and hopefully two lives enriched by this small encounter, however brief…

With so much love,

May 2, 2016